From: the4kerns@a...

Date: Mon Apr 9, 2001 6:12 pm

Subject: Things that helped me

Hi friends,

Its me again. You're probably tired of my advice and bragging about getting

well but I made another list out. These are the things that helped me recover

and kept me somewhat sane in my darkest days. I survived the depression, the

anger, the confusion, the pain, and yes Jenny the tears. So here's my list of

things that helped me personally.

BENZO FRIEND- I had someone I talked to from the group almost daily. We were

at about the same pace and same circumstances about our withdrawal. We could

compare notes and offer support. This was VERY helpfull to me.

WALKS- Especially the park.

CHAMOMILE TEA- Somewhat soothing at times

RESCUE REMEDY DROPS- Again Somewhat relaxing

QUIET TIME- If agravated by friends, family, anyone

STRESS REDUCTION- I avoided GOOD and BAD stress if at all possible

UNFINISHED BUSINESS- Try to not worry about this. IT gets done eventually.
When you feel up to it.

HUGS- And lots of them. Demand them if you have to.

FINAL GOAL- Something you cannot do on the benzos. Mine was to be a better Dad. Only recovery would accomplish this

VIDEOS- " It's a wonderfull life" My favorite. No slasher movies !

CAFFEINE & SUGAR- Avoid or eliminate

RELAXING HOBBIE- Like fishing or gardening. This gave me some time alone and gave my wife a break.

JOURNAL- This I didn't do enough. I only started late. But I find it helpfull

to write stuff down.

BENZO HORROR STORIES- If you start to read something disturbing- STOP-read it

later when you feel better.

ACCEPTANCE- Of symptoms as temporary. NOT who you are to become.

LARGE CROWDS- I could not do this much. Later it becomes easier.

INTIMACY- A great stress reducer. If you're up to it. Pun intended guys.

ARGUEING- Try not to argue with anyone. Let the anger pass quitely.

THE GROUP- You're never alone. Someones been there and understands.

These things helped me. Everyone may be different but I know I needed

suggestions back then.

Of course somedays its hard to do possitive things. But just try and do

anything to get your mind off your temporary pain.

I hope this helps someone with some ideas. I know alot of you know most of

this but I just want to help if at all possible. I know it sucks, but better

days do come.

Jenn, Jenny, Tarra, Beth, Robert, Doc, Kathy and anyone having a hard time. I

hope you feel better soon.

Much Healing,

Tom- 8 months benzo free

ps- sorry so long a post